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I was just checking in on this blog and, to my surprise, found that I was spammed with more than 4,000 fake comments overnight. Who does this crap, and why? Mutant Ninja Teenagers? Monkeys? Thank goodness my blog engine caught them all and cleaned them up.

As an FYI, future commenters will be required to actually login to post comments on this site. I’m sorry for the hassle, but I shudder to think what impact more than 4,000 fake comments would have had on this site if I had not had an easy way to deal with them… and, frankly, most of the comments lately have been spam anyway, probably because I stopped posting or participating several months ago.

I had intended to end this blog late last year, and even created a “That’s All Folks” post to say goodbye – but I never quite really ended it. In fact, I have more to post and will be updating this blog with some of my writing from the intervening months.

While my primary focus in starting this blog was my physical and mental health, my new focus has become the impact of today’s world on both of those categories. One reason I intended to end my blog was because I am uncomfortable with electronic friendships — they don’t seem real, to me. Technology is a big issue for me, not least because my entire life revolves around it. So expect to see more writing about this going forward.

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Sudo Get Me A Xanax

Well, ended up back at the ER for chest pain, yesterday. They put me back in the hospital just like they did on 5/30 and just like on 5/30 I wanted out, out, out — but this time I made it through, thanks to some Xanax. Got my stress test and the doc said my heart looks great. That leaves gastro-intestinal, lung, and/or anxiety as the culprits. I hope we can figure it out and get it stopped. But what a relief that it evidently wasn’t my heart!

I think having a prescription for Xanax will help. The most disruptive aspect of the chest pain has been the anxiety it produces. Xanax could mean the difference between being able to make it through the day or night and running away in fear.

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Started my period yesterday and am expecting to feel a lot better because of it.

My periods stopped being 28 days apart 3 or 4 cycles ago. Lately they’ve been 3 weeks apart, 2 weeks apart, 25 days apart, and very heavy. I suspect this is perimenopause because of my age (44), and I wonder how long until I stop having periods all together, and what impact that will have on my health.

I remember Mom going through it. It’s still strange to me that she’s beyond menopause, now. Periods were something that tied us together for so long. Menopause was hard on my mother. Maybe it’s a hard time — the 40s and 50s — for most women. I’ve read that menopause is a lot like puberty and I can see how that is true. My body is changing (has been for a long time, really) in ways I never anticipated. Weight, fat distribution… nix that, actually. It’s more the permanency of the changes. I am moving beyond regeneration. It isn’t that my body is no longer at my command, it’s more that it doesn’t respond the way it used to. All that is old news and has been going on for 10 years, even though I didn’t understand it back then. I always think of my weight when I think about this but the thing that is happening is happening in all areas of my life, as strong and inevitable as water rushing around me and pushing me forward.

I think of the last school portrait I had made. I as 17, and pregnant (barely on both accounts) with short brown hair. I didn’t know I was pregnant, I don’t think. In my portrait my chin is stuck out to show my determination to do something important with my life. I was disdainful of platitudes and cliches and other people’s failings and mistakes. And yet now, after nearly thirty years more of living, I am beginning to see that I was mistaken. I thought that by doing things my own way I was following a short cut to some kind of promised land. But there are no short cuts and there is no promised land. There is just terrain — the same terrain we all pass through. There is just living. We’re all walking down the very same road and maybe success is nothing more than an imaginary scene we conjure up to keep us occupied. Maybe we’re all mere mortals pretending to be gods.

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It’s Gnawed So Bad

I love my house. Love my husband, my marriage, my dogs and cats. I love my familiarity with this city, and the cache of living here. I love that we make enough money to get by. Love my parents and that my grandmother (whom I also love) is still alive at 90 years old. I love that I have long hair and that it is just as curly as it was when I was give years old.

I love that things are growing in our backyard and that the pool is clean, and I love the sound the water makes when the pool pump is turned on. We have blue dragon flies that flutter around at eye-level out here and I love their blue-ness and their extra-large, round, eyes.

The wonder of it all is that I could be so constantly surrounded by all that I love and yet be consumed, today, by the two things in my life I detest: my job, and my health. Consumed as in fixated, overwhelmed by anxiety, weak with worry and unhappiness.

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Sudo Get Me A Heart Attack

Sitting on the back porch. I love this place. We both do. We’ve done a ton of demolition here. More than a ton, actually. We finally have things growing in our backyard, and this table on this porch is one of my favorite places to be.

I bought 15 plants on Saturday — 5 Black & Blue Salvia, 5 Blue Plumbagos, and 5 Flame Salvias. Yesterday, I got busy digging up the remaining compacted earth around the pool so I could plant our new flower garden. I dug the top 2 or 3 inches out of a trench maybe 4′x2′, stopping often to catch my breath the way I always do. And then it suddenly seemed important to take a sit-down water break.

I headed to this table and the bottle of ice water I had waiting for me, and I remember thinking it seemed strange that I had to sit down. I did sit down and started to take a drink but stopped short of my mouth because my entire chest suddenly felt like it was on fire. I decided to go lean back on the couch inside, but the pain intensified. The pain was suddenly more important the the ice water and I could never seem to make it all the way to drinking. I leaned back, I sat up — the pain just kept intensifying and was becoming frightening. I pulled down my strapless bathing suit top but it didn’t help. I reached back and unhooked the top so I wouldn’t have anything tight around my chest but it didn’t do any good. I went in the bedroom to lay down but the pain just got worse, and I realized my neck and jaw were hurting just as much, but in a different way. I called for David.

Other than saying, “Chest hurts,” I couldn’t seem to say what was wrong. I felt terrible weak and light headed and we both immediately decided to take me to the ER. It seemed to take everything I had to simply step back in to my short and I didn’t think I was going to be able to find a shirt. I was breathing very heavily but I wasn’t wheezing. I thought the weakness, light-headedness and general confusion were just anxiety, and I would have preferred not to go — but the pain was just scary as hell and I knew I was experiencing the symptoms of a heart attack.

The pain subsided quickly once we were on our way to the hospital. I felt a little nauseous but even that was over by the time we got there.

My EKG was slightly abnormal, and because of that, the overall symptoms and how they’d occurred, as well as my risk factors (smoking, family history, high cholesterol) they wanted to keep me so they could measure my cardiac enzymes and do a stress test and ecocardiogram.

At first, I agreed, but a couple of hours later I changed my mind. Between David, my mother, and the doctor on call I was convinced to stay. When I woke up this morning I learned my enzymes were normal and I decided to leave against medical advice and follow up with the Austin Heart Hospital later this week.

I should add that what awakened me this morning, in the hospital, was the load of bricks sitting on my chest. Not an unusual feeling, for me, and a different kind of pain than yesterdays, but I thought it was worth mentioning to the nurse.

“Huh, I wonder what’s causing that? Your cardiac enzymes were normal.”

Which is great news! No cardiac enzyme problem means no heart damage. I think.

I know I should have stayed. I should have asked for some Valium or something. There is a protocol to heart problems and I was one of too many patients in an understaffed hospital on a holiday weekend. This claustrophobia I get in situations like this is awful for the people around me.

I feel exhausted and the chest pain from yesterday keeps whispering through. I feel like I just had surgery or something. My attempts at sleep were interrupted every several minutes by my mother’s coughing and repeated visits from technicians and nurses. They gave me nitroglycerin, which gave me a horrible headache, which didn’t help much. The equipment they used to monitor my vital signs malfunctioned multiple times, so they kept coming in to reset it, and then unhooked me and replaced it a couple of times, going through the laborious process of hooking me back up all over again. After the comment from the nurse about normal cardiac enzyme levels, I just couldn’t wait to get out of there.

I think 1/2 of everything that happened was simple panic. I don’t know what caused the rest of it — and I’m not sure I want to know. For 18 hours, starting yesterday afternoon, my body and my decisions seemed to be outside of my control. Mom and David. The doctor.

So much for my holiday weekend.

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Puppy Love

It’s been nearly a year since we adopted Faith, our newest furry family member.

It all began with grief. As soon as we lost Crunch Tator, my trusty old Wheaton Terrier, I started hanging out at the Town Lake Animal Center, our local animal shelter. I would highly recommend this type of therapy to anyone suffering from the loss of a furry family member except for one thing: it is impossible to do so without becoming fixated on adopting another dog. My own fixation was on Millie, a 40 pound Collie/Basset Hound mix with terrible manners and a clear tendency towards ADHD. Mainly because she had a big nose. My husband was opposed to getting a dog while I was in the throes of fixation, so we compromised on getting the dog of his choice, who happened to be Faith, an 80 pound German Shepherd/Chow Chow mix.

Faith was well mannered, but aloof. I didn’t immediately take to her. While she, also, has a big nose, she did not present it for kisses; in fact, she showed no interest in me at all. And yet, I consented to her adoption. I suppose out of Hope. And maybe a little Charity.

We’ll skip the part where we brought her home and I immediately told David we’d made a mistake because I was terrified of her, and we’ll move right along to the commitment I made to her the next morning: “I will not allow my fear of you to define our relationship.”

This seemed to work quite well. I read some Ceasar Milan books. I started walking her twice a day, every day. The walks were long and controlled – short leash, no stopping unless I said so, sit at every curb, etc. I even used a doggy backpack, which was handy for carrying water. Faith became somewhat affectionate towards me and I gained a lot of confidence in myself. I grew to look forward to our long walks, and I decided we’d picked the right dog for us after all the first time she sat down next to me and I was able to throw my arm around her big, round haunches as if she was a human being. Or maybe it was the first time she laid her head on my lap and looked up at me with her big, brown eyes. Actually, I think it was the first time I laid down next to her on the floor and laid my head on her side. Big dogs rock for comfort and snuggling, let me tell you.

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First (and last) Lenovo Posto

I purchased a schnazzy Lenovo S10-3t computer from Amazon.com, day before yesterday. I got it today and set it up tonight. I think it’s going to work great for posting to blogs, and for writing. But I am crazy nervous about the expense. It cost $524, with the RAM upgrade (it max’s out at 2GB) and tax, and another $130 to upgrade the operating system from Windows 7 Starter, which I read was basically useless, to Windows 7 Professional (otherwise, I wouldn’t have been able to join a network to access my files, etc.). That’s a damn expensive budget computer, when I could have purchased the refurbished Toshiba for $339. I charged it to my Mastercard, thus giving myself plenty of time to pay it off on my meager hourly wage. You’re welcome, Capital One.

Guilt. Guilt.

Afflictions to whine about tonight: my ears hurt, my throat hurts, my chest goop is a bit painful, and my stomach is a little upset. I’m throwing that out that because, after all, this blog has become the home of my hypochondria, and a post about nothing more than my new computer would make little sense if I didn’t throw a few afflictions in to the mix.

(By the way, I felt great when I wrote my “That’s All Folks” post. Fabulous enough to think the afflictions were over. There is hope for me yet.)

And that’s all for my first Lenovo Posto, folks.

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The Triangle

The stopping medication thing is falling apart, bit by bit. First off I got the flu (or whatever it was) that didn’t respond to anything other than Hydromet. Insomnia set in… and then my asthma took a turn for the worse. So, more albuterol than normal plus the occasional, desperate puff of Symbicort. Then the diagnosis of severe gerd causing inflammation in my larynx so I was back on Protonix, full-strength (40mg 2xdaily) for a few days.

And now I’m back on 100mg a night of Seroquel.

For now.

I do have an appointment to meet a General Practitioner, this Saturday. I’m nervous about it. I’m trying to figure out exactly what to tell him I need help with, so I’ll be practicing here over the next few days.

Today’s take: The Triangle.

“It’s like this, doc: I have asthma, GERD, and Bipolar Disorder NOS. All 3 have had a major impact on my life, and all 3 are – individually, at least – well controlled by medication; but the medication I take for one has a negative impact on another, and this goes on and on in a vicious circle. I keep finding myself at a place where I’m taking huge prescribed doses of these strong medications and things are going downhill with all 3 diseases and then – wham – one doctor will want to add even more drugs to try to fix things. The last time that happened was last December, and I decided to try to get off everything to get a better fix on what was what where the illnesses are concerned, and here I am. I need help managing all of this and I have a feeling it’s going to require some time – more than 15 minutes every six months, for instance. The symptoms of the illnesses are getting much worse (I think – though I’m not sure), and the side effects have become well-neigh intolerable and, I think, dangerous. Help!

And then I can whip out my spreadsheet of afflictions.

Comments?

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AfflictionUpdateHer

I’ll make this quick, since my shift ends in 10 minutes and I don’t have my own computer at home, anymore.

That’s right. I sold my computer for $950 to help cover some of the money we lost by my being out sick without sick leave for 8 days.

In bullet form, here’s where I am tonight:

  • My manager made an exception and didn’t put me on final warning
  • But I didn’t get the job I interviewed for because I was on second warning
  • We cleaned the house and even got all the debris carted off by Bagster (yay!!!)
  • My insomnia has been intractable and I’ve taken something to help me sleep about 2 out of every 3 nights
  • On Monday I had a stomach ache. On Tuesday it turned in to intestinal distress, all-over joint pain, and a high fever. A blood test and urine sample at the ER (who can afford to take time off work for a dr’s appointment when they’re on attendance warning??) revealed nothing.
  • I am now somewhat fixated on two possibilities: that I have cancer, or that I am pregnant. They are equally likely (which is to say, not very), but the fixation is driven by sleep deprivation and the side effects of whatever drug I took last night to try to sleep (Hydrocodone in this case – I didn’t sleep well but I certainly had interesting dreams; Benedryl two nights before that, and Trazedone and Benedryl the night before that).

Oh, and by the way, the rib pain I may have mentioned that incapacitated me last year around this time? It’s been hanging around again, like a suspicious-looking ex-convict.

This time, I keep promising myself… this time I will not rest until I find out what’s causing this. No more just covering up the symptoms, which I can push through if I try. I want to know what’s causing this stuff to happen.

Physical scheduled with a new (and potential primary care) physician for March 27.

Oh how I miss my computer lust after a new computer.

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Household Surgery

Blogs are strange things to me. I was resistant to home computing for so many years (despite a career in technology that goes back to the mid-1980′s) that I didn’t even know what a blog was until my mother explained it to me a few years ago. And then I was suspicious of blogs – they screamed “look at me!”, a cry of wolf if I ever heard one. Little by little, though, blogs won me over. For one thing, they have taken over the Internet. For another, my personal diaries scream “look at me!”, even if only to myself, and I ultimately simply couldn’t resist trying myself out on a global stage. Still, they are strange. If nobody is looking at my blog, does it really exist? And if I am writing and nobody is looking does that mean that what I have to say simply isn’t interesting?

But what does that matter, really? I don’t know if I’m a better writer when I’m posting on my blog, but my experiment with this blog opened my mind up in ways that writing in my diary never really did. It’s easier to edit, for one thing. Easier to search through. Easier to type, I guess, than to write something out longhand.

At any rate, what I want to write about today is the state of our house.

When I left off writing in this blog several weeks ago my health was steadily improving. Ultimately, I lost 15 pounds after I stopped taking all my prescriptions. My asthma improved dramatically. My GERD disappeared. No more being light-headed, being dizzy, having such a dry mouth that I couldn’t swallow, having heart palpitations, having such a strong startle response that it impeded my ability to do everyday things. No more paranoia or hypomania or depression. It was amazing.

In fact, the only remaining problem was asthma and allergies. I would being feeling OK and then, as soon as I lay down in bed at night – wam! wheezing galore! And there was simply something about our bedroom that seemed oppressive to me. I didn’t really trust that bedroom. I felt certain something lurked in the ceilings, or behind the walls. Something that was triggering my asthma.

Master Bedroom

Pre-remodel Master Bedroom

Master Bedroom

Pre-remodel Master Bedroom

So one weekend several weeks ago we moved out of that bedroom and began the process of demolition. We tore the drywall off the walls in the bathroom, closet, and dressing area and discovered that the plumbing to the bath had, at some point, leaked. The leak had been fixed but nothing had been done about the woodwork that had gotten wet. The base plate for the partition wall behind the plumbing was covered with mold and was beginning to rot. Water had also leaked from the shower spray behind the tiles around the window, causing more mold on the framing around the bath.

Immediately following our discovery, I got sick. I wrote about being sick in my last post.

I’m certain I had a virus because I was running a fever and because all of my joints (and especially my back and the back of my neck) ached. On the other hand, it also felt like a severe allergic reaction… that lasted for weeks. I was too run down to dust and vacuum and that was making everything worse – although, weirdly, my asthma was fine the whole time. My mother came over last week and, bless her heart, cleaned house for me. She can’t imagine how much I appreciated that or how helpful it was.

Thus I was quite reluctant to proceed with our master bedroom remodel. Because the big remaining demolition had the potential to start an asthma attack that could send even a healthy youngster to the hospital: we had to remove the ceiling. We had to remove it because a previous owner had attempted to repair a crack that ran down the entire middle of the bedroom ceiling with roofing nails, wood putty, and spackle, and popcorn texture was falling off on to the floor (and underneath the texture were tell-tale signs of an old leak of some kind).

We toyed with the idea of hiring someone to remove it. We toyed with simply covering it up – which is what we very nearly did. The problem wasn’t removing the drywall, it was the old blown-in insulation laying on top of it, most of which had turned to a fine dust over the past 40 years.

And yet, with finances dictating our direction we couldn’t afford to hire someone, and I couldn’t imagine trying to explain to a potential future home buyer why we decided to cover up a mess rather than repair it.

And then my husband, my hero, stepped in. Late Saturday afternoon he went down to Home Depot and rented a drywall lift. We donned toxic dust respirators, protective coveralls, and long gloves. We dragged out Mom and Dad’s old shop vac, and bought a box of extra-strength, 52-gallon construction trash bags. He climbed up the laddar, and the job began.

David would stand on top of the ladder with his head and shoulders in the attic, and I would hand him an empty bag. He used an empty dust pan to scoop the old insulation in to the bag until it was too full for him to hold any longer, and then I turned on the shop vac and held it on my shoulders so he could vacuum out the remaining dust from that section of drywall. And then we would take that section of drywall down. While he scooped the next bag I vacuumed the dust and debris off the floor. We finished removing the ceiling in the wee hours of Sunday morning.

What we found was eye-opening. In fact, before we even got very far I climbed the ladder to remove the vent cover from the air vent that feeds in to the master bedroom ceiling, only to discover that it was covered with mold. Once we got the first piece of ceiling down and David was able to take a good look around that part of the attic (which is not accessible via the rest of the house), we discovered the source of the “leak” on the ceiling: a large area that had been used like a toilet by a visiting possum. The area, which included both the wiring for our ceiling light fixture and the contaminated air vent, was about 2′x4′ and was filled with feces and urine. The urine had soaked through the drywall. It appeared to be quite old, as the feces (which was a lot like dog poop) was completely desiccated. As we continued removing drywall and made our way towards the dressing area we found a place where a rather major water leak has occurred in the roof. While the leak had been repaired at the roof nobody had bothered doing anything about the water that had found its way in the attic, and the drywall and rafters were covered in mold. Additionally, the possum (or some critter) had chewed all the sheathing off the electrical wires that ran to the light fixtures in the dressing area – light fixtures that just happened to be located directly beneath the leak.

This was a lot of work, I have to say, even though David was the one with doing all the scooping (he wouldn’t let me do it because he was afraid it would be too much for my asthma and allergies). My energy was good on Saturday, but come Sunday morning I was tuckered out. David, however, was just getting started. I helped him hang two 4′x12′ sheets of drywall on the ceiling before I gave out on him. He worked straight through from around noon Sunday until 6am Monday morning and finished hanging all the new drywall in the ceiling. The only break he took was to take our dog to the dog park. He is Superman!!!!

Now, before we started working on the ceiling I had it in my head that I was going to completely seal off the room from the rest of the house, and that I was going to make sure we kept the entire house dusted and vacuumed to keep as clear as possible of the construction dust we were creating – but I didn’t. In fact, our house is now terribly filthy. But you want to know something? Despite all that, I woke up this morning flat on my back in bed – and I wasn’t even wheezing. It was amazing.

We now have a few dozen big bags of filthy old insulation sealed shut and piled on our back porch; we have the old drywall leaning against a wall on our front porch. And we have all that contaminated crap (literally!) out of our master bedroom.

I am proud of us for doing the right thing. For cleaning out instead of covering up. It isn’t perfect, but it proves two things: 1) that DIY’ers can tackle the dirtiest of jobs, and 2) that there is hope for this old house.

I’m looking forward to putting our master bedroom / bath / closet / dressing area back together. But I can’t help thinking about the other rooms in the house with similar problems (we’ve had squirrels in our attic, in a different part of the house, for months). What’s nice is that I no longer feel helpless to deal with the major issues we’ve run in to here.

And maybe that’s what this blog is all about, really- not feeling helpless. If I can take the cover off the afflictions I have bowed to over the years; if I can understand what’s going on underneath my own drywall, then maybe I can fix it. It sure beats the sense of foreboding that staring at a mangled ceiling can bring.

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